I empathize with many parents of teenagers as it can be very difficult raising teenagers today. As a mom of four children; ages 21, 16, 15, and 11; I have been there and am still there. I've seen that we can teach our children to do the right thing, hope and pray that they do the right thing, but ultimately it is up to them to make that choice. The older they get, the more freedom they have in making these decisions. Teens are faced with negative peer pressure and a culture filled with many temptations from underage alcohol consumption, experimentation with other drugs, and sex at younger and younger ages. This is where I can help! I am a mom with a law enforcement degree so I know what I am looking for. Unfortunately I have seen a lot of good kids make bad decisions. Could this happen to you?
Real Life Examples:
Grandpa dies and while parents are out of state for the funeral, the teenager has an underage alcohol party. I overhear them talking about trying to get one of the girls really drunk so they can have sex with her. The neighbors watching the house don't know that there is a party because the kids all park a block away. The parents don't think this will happen because their son wouldn't take advantage of a situation like that. "He knows better."
A single parent had to work nights so a lot of kids would hang out at this house unsupervised and it became a party place at night. A high school drug dealer attended one night and was trying to sell cocaine at the party. A few of the kids were interested but couldn't afford it. Near the end of the night, people were more intoxicated and willing to do things they wouldn't normally do. The drug dealer then offered it for free and some of the kids tried it. Those same kids couldn't stop talking about it all week, looking forward to doing it again the next weekend.
A couple of families were camping at Lifefest. Their teens had to work the next day so they drove home, called their parents, but didn't stay home. Instead of going to bed, they went to a campfire with other friends where alcohol was being served. Nice kids, good families, unfortunately one girl ended up pregnant. The father of this baby had a
different girlfriend and denied paternity until the blood results proved the
baby was his. He was raised in a Catholic family, attended parochial
school, and was on the right path until he made poor decisions at an unsupervised party that will affect both teens and their families for the
rest of their lives.
All of this can be pretty scary. How many of these kids drove home or rode with someone who was drinking? How many of them tried things and did things they normally wouldn't do if they were supervised and sober? How many kids regretted doing things sexually if their inhibitions were not lowered or didn't feel pressured?
Now picture how much safer it would be if I were going by to check on these kids. How much easier would it be for a teen to say, "No, you guys can't come over. My mom went and hired someone to check on me." What an easy out for that teen. He can still be cool with his friends, he can say no without being further pressured, and he has a fail proof backup plan in case temptations arise. " I can't come over and drink any alcohol. My parents hired this lady who can test my breath." The boyfriend cannot stay over night since I would do a perimeter check making sure all areas of the house are safe and no one else is there. The teens cannot drink and/or drive thanks to an Alco Sensor I have that checks for any traces of alcohol on the breath. There are many other benefits to check too. The teens are for sure safe at home and on time, no one is there that shouldn't be there, and it encourages positive decision-making as well as builds more trustworthiness. I view this service as a piece of the puzzle to parenting. It can't be done all alone, it needs to be coupled with other proactive parenting techniques and lots of communication about these topics.
- House rules encouragement
- Curfew enforcement
- Emergency contact
- Easy out to negative peer
pressure to have friends
come over, "I can't have
you all come over. My
parents hired someone to
come and check on me."
- Home Safe call
- 1 visit daily is $50
- 2 visits daily is $75
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